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Enjoy the New Year, Simplify and Be Joy

Full bloom of a single yellow rose.A new year rolled in.  Does it seem like 2016 even happened?  If not, why not?  Are you in such a rush that you don't take time to smell the roses and enjoy the moments a long the way?  This is not an article about making New Years Resolutions.  This is an article about simply enjoying life more each day as we start this new year.  [Update - this article was originally posted in 2015.]

Speaking of roses, I love them.  Every house I buy I plant rose bushes.  They remind me of my Grandmother Ellsworth.   There is something special about them and all their varieties.  When we opened our Store, Indigo Mountain in Safford, AZ we wanted to simplify our lives so we bought a house a few blocks from our business.  It has been great!  We can walk to work, walk to a grocery store, and take care of business and our home with ease.  But we still found we were busy and rushing around.  So Mark literally started stopping to smell our rose bushes each day before going anywhere.  That was his daily routine, stop look at the roses, pinch off the dead blooms, and literally SMELL THE ROSES.  Then he started his day, enjoying the moments, enjoying life more.

What do you do to start your day?

What do you want to be different in 2017 as we start a new year?

At the end of the year, what do you want your new year to look like?  As you think about 2016, what do you wish you did different?  NO REGRETS - those were choices you made.  But take stock of those choices and design and organize your life with intention this year with time for enjoying life more and doing the things you want to do.  Sometimes we can spend time running the rat race and not getting very far.  If you want some inspiration, read this article, Stop Allowing Excuses to Run Your Life, an interview about a young man that has accomplished a lot and has no arms.

I think as we mark the moments along the way and breath deeply, smiling more each day that time can slow down - or rather, we just are existing in time instead of trying to create a 30 hour day - which just slows us down.

Here are some ideas to help you enjoy each day more and simplify

  1. Spend less time on social media and texting.
  2. Spend more time face to face with the people you care about.Our family playing a game together
  3. Make memories with those people.
  4. Play games, not on the computer, with people.
  5. Stop and literally smell the roses or other rituals to help you slow down.
  6. Be realistic about what you can accomplish and do in a day or week.
  7. Get your sleep.
  8. Move and exercise as it gives you more energy and increases happy chemicals in your brain.
  9. Eat meals with the people you live with and friends and enjoy the meal, don't rush through it.
  10. Keep a journal and record the things your grateful for and the good times as well as some of your struggles.  Record your goals and dreams.
  11. Make a scrap book of pictures over the year.
  12. Look at your life and simplify.
  13. Learn something new.
  14. Have fun.
  15. Give service.
  16. Take a vacation.
  17. Pamper yourself and other around you.
  18. Get rid of your clutter and things that don't bring you joy.

We've been taking stock of our lives.  Personally we have 2 kids left and home and we want to enjoy each moment of their lives.  We have simplified our life a little more and cut out some activities that we were involved in.  These were great activities, we can all get involved in worthwhile amazing activities.  It just depends on what we choose to do.  After all, we have 24 hours in each day and 8 of those are sleeping hours.  Just for fun, I once added up the things I had committed to do - it was more than 20 hours for a day.  I knew right away that was part of some stress I was experiencing.  Now I take stock on a regular basis of my time.  Just like a check book needs to be balanced, you need to balance your time.  Money doesn't grow on trees and time marches on - we all get the same amount.  We can't do everything, so choose what you want with YOUR TIME.  As we roll into a new year, think about your life.

Once when I was feeling so overwhelmed and busy, I was meditating and pondering on my life.  This is always a good activity.  Most of us have a genius in our head if we just take time to listen.  Well my genius inner voice started talking to me and said, "Who told you you had to work so hard?  Who said you have to get all these things done?"  Of course I answered back - Me.  I was my task master and I realized that no one else probably cared if I did all these things and worked so hard.  But they probably cared that I took care of myself.  So I quit being so hard on myself - you know I wasn't paying myself overtime or rewarding me in anyway.  That was my awakening.

We looked at the activities we have been participating in and our time and our goals for the year.  Some of our activities were cut out.  As a family we decided what to be involved in and what to do so that we had time together.  We decided we also needed more game time together as a family.

We are getting rid of clutter in a big way this year and we already got started last year.  Then the universe decided I wasn't moving fast enough or needed some help.   I love this book, The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up.  It is a fantastic book to help you in this area.  We highly recommend this book.  It is short and easy to read.  I now look for objects that bring me joy or have a current job in my life, everything else is easy to let go of.  Our goal in 2016 is to get rid of 1/3 of our stuff so that when the new year of 2017 rolls around, we have tidied up and feel more organized.  It is not going to be an overnight task and we plan to have fun doing it.

Don't make a big deal about New Year Resolutions, just start each day creating the life you want.

If you just exist each day reacting to events and circumstances around you, it can still be a good life but you may not end of where you want.  Take just a few minutes or an evening and think about your life - DESIGN YOUR LIFE.  What do you choose?  Write it down, make a vision board, make a list, whatever works for you.  Then each day spend a few minutes planning your life.  It will make a huge difference.  For me personally, I end the day by looking at my day and planning for tomorrow.  That way when the morning starts I'm already on my game plan.

tea-set for 2 Pixabay freeWe do spend time each day in quiet thought and meditation.  It makes a huge difference.  Mark stops and smells the roses and I do as well.  But my big ritual that helps me slow down is enjoying a cup of herbal tea.  A dear friend got me hooked on herbal fruit teas years ago.  So when I drink my daily cup, I think of her - I think of friends - tea time.  I slow down and savor the delicious taste and smile about my day and the good times.

What do you do to enjoy the day and slow down?

What are your goals this year?  What are your working for?  Check out this article on Smart Goals inspired by our son Chandler.DSCN2982

This I am going to BE JOY; feeling peace and abundance.  What do you choose?

Share your thoughts and tips.

Kally and Mark

Holiday Stress Tips

Celebrate Definition Button by Stuart Miles at Freedigitalphotos.netStress Reducing and Organizing Tips for the Holiday Season

Do you find yourself not looking forward to some holidays?  Do you wish you had more time?  Do the holidays overwhelm you?  We have tips to help you get more organize, reduce your stress, and connect to a more joyous season.  Tune into for your tips, click here for the radio link.

And isn't the holiday season about JOY in the first place?  There are many things that can derail us at the end of the year, finances and over spending, shopping, 'Keeping up with the Jone's', the weather, long lines, weight gain, traveling, and even feeling obligated to attend social parties for work, family or the community.

Plan ahead to change how your holiday season will go.  Click here for another article planning for the holidays.  Make a list now to help you prepare for next year.

Click on the recording below to listen now.

Did you know that the thing that stresses most people out - the top of the list is......

They have to pretend to be happy.

Step #1  What is your wish list for celebrating the holidays?  Do you find yourself disappointed when the holidays don't turn out like you want?

True story.... my husband and kids had no idea about my expectations for Mother's Day.  So they never quit turned out like I wanted.  I expected breakfast in bed and that never crossed his mind and the kids were very little.  Once I shared my expectations, he was happy to meet my expectation.  I'm sure many of you can relate.

Your partner was raised by different people with a different view of life.  If you never share your expectations or wishes, they wont know because most people are not great mind readers.

Make a clear decision about what you want.  It does take away a lot of stress.  Decide how you will spend your time and resources.

Step #2 Evaluate last year.  What did you LOVE and what did you just hate?  What new traditions do you want to create or what did you dread?  I use a Christmas notebook to help plan and evaluate.

Step #3 Why do you want to change?  What do you want to change?  What is 1 small change that you can do to bring a lot more peace and happiness?KISS

Step #4 KISS Keep it simple and keep it special.  If you learn the KISS rule, it is like a magic wand to help you transform the holidays.  KISS = Keep It Simple and Special.

Step #5 Plan ahead and budget. It will help you spend less and you'll be able to clearly see where you need to cut back.  A budget really makes a difference especially if you plan ahead and save.  Setting aside money each money to celebrate holidays, special occasions and birthdays helps with the shock of it all at once and it makes it easier to follow your plans.

We even provide a service at our store to help shoppers - especially grandparents.  You provide a budget and a list of people your shopping for and we stay in your budget and pick out wonderful gifts items for you.  For many this helps with planning and budgeting.

Our absolutely favorite budget tool is called YNAB, You Need A Budget. Click here for a link with a discount if you want, or try a free trial.  I consider myself to be good at budgeting, and I absolutely love this software.

Step #6 Prioritize.  What is most important to you?  When your planning and budgeting, it is important to know what is most important.  Who is most important for spending your time and resources with?
holiday shopper with gifts caminoel by freedigitalphotos.netStep #7 Enjoy each and everyday now that you have a plan.  Don't forget that during the December holidays and many other celebrations, JOY is the reason we are celebrating.

Step #8 Take care of your health.  After Halloween there is a noticeable rise in sickness.  One reason for that is all the extra candy and junk food.  So don't completely step away from all your good habits.  Enjoy the celebrations, but don't make it a season of just eating terribly.  Try to maintain some good habits and you'll enjoy the holidays more.  There is nothing worse than feeling sick when everyone is getting together for a celebration.

Follow the simple basics.

  • Drink your water.
  • Keep eating the good, healthy foods.
  • If you want the treats, counter balance that with your healthy balanced meals.
  • Keep exercising.  It boosts moods and helps improve your immune system.  Walking has a tranquilizing effect on the brain and can help with anxiety and sleep.
  • Get your rest.  It is normal to want to sleep longer in the winter, that is the natural rhythm of the body.
  • Laugh and have fun.
  • Check out our boards on Pinterest.  We have saved some healthy dessert ideas.
  • Take your vitamins and use essential oils to help prevent sickness.  For sure take your vitamins all winter.
  • Boost your mood with Vitamin D from sunlight or take a supplement if needed.  Our favorite is Cod Liver Oil with Butter oil.
  • Avoid over-eating.  Make smaller meals, prepare your favorites over several days instead of trying to eat it all in 1 day.

Step #9 Wrap up and repeat.  Get rid of clutter and broken decorations.  Make notes of what went well.  Start the plan for next year.

Ideas and Tips

  • Hand out non-candy surprises for Halloween.
  • Before Trick or Treating or other Celebrations involving lots of desserts eat well.
  • Bring your own dessert to events.
  • Make sure you have had your protein needs met before a gathering, you'll have less cravings.
  • Brink a good cup of herbal tea to drink at events or bring tea bags with your choice of sweetener like stevia.
  • Spend more time away from technology, the phone, email and Facebook.  Spend time with real people enjoying the sights, smells and sounds of the holidays and special celebrations.
  • Use citrus essential oils or others that you enjoy to boost your mood.

Do less and enJOY more.

Kally and Mark for webDon't forget to laugh and have a good time.

If you want more tips and stories, tune into the radio show.

Enjoy your holidays and your celebrations.

Mark and Kally

Photo credits:  Stuart Miles, caminoel at Freedigitalphotos.nes

December 2015 All About Art

December2015"The purpose of art is washing the dust of daily life off our souls" Pablo Picasso

This month, December 2015, is full of articles on art.  You'll find articles on Art Therapy, the creative process in writing a song, hanging your artwork, and tips to starting your own art collection.   Jayna Mistry has an article entitled:  The World Needs More Artists.  We agree.  More and more schools are shutting down art programs, at the expense of all our communities.  Check out the article on page 55 about a wonderful company called Trades of Hope, helping to empower women out of poverty.

Of course your'll some of the latest fashion trends and the trends in coats.

Be sure to check out our featured wellness article on page 17 on Art Therapy.    Adult coloring books are all the rage, we have had a hard time keeping them on our Arts Blocks by Stuart Miles at FDPshelves in our store.  Art therapy is being utilized to help children with traumatic brain injuries or for PTSD.  It is a form of yoga for the brain.  Coloring encourages imagination which is great for children, but it is also good for adults.  Imagination is the stuff dreams are made of and helps light a fire to our passion.

Be sure and check out this months Your True Colours Magazine.

Photo credits by Stuart Miles at Freedigitalphotos.net

 

 

Happy Holidays from Indigo Mountain

christmas-1090690_1920 Pixabay freeThe holidays are a wonderful time of year – no matter what holiday you celebrate.  The word holiday comes from 2 words, holy days.  During the holidays, especially at this time of year, we reconnect with family and friends and participate in traditions.  Traditions and holidays are both important in maintaining connection with each other and passing on our family heritages.   The holidays are a good time to give the gift of forgiveness to yourself and others.  Check out my article and radio program on Forgiveness.menorah-318641_1920 Pixabay free

I have dear Jewish friends and family members that celebrate Hanuka.  The Jews have been observing this festival of lights in celebration of the re-dedication of
Jerusalem’s temple in 164 B.C.  In fact Jesus celebrated Hanukkah and other Jewish holidays.

The first recorded date of Christmas being celebrated is December 25th in the year 336 A.D.  during the time of the Roman Emperor Constantine, the first Christian Roman Emperor.  Most of the Christians around the world celebrate Christmas and of course many people celebrate the Santa Clause version of Christmas.

nicholas-1007764_1920 pixabay freeAround the world you will find people observing the 12 Days of Christmas – after Christmas until the 12th day known as the Three Kings Day.  Many Latin countries, Día de Los Reyes is celebrated to honor the Three Wise Men and closes the Christmas festivities.  It is the day they exchange gifts.  We have always had an advent calendar to mark the days leading up to December 25th with candles, singing, and other occasions and in many cultures this is a common practice.

Personally, I am starting a new family tradition; adding the 12 Days of Christmas after the 25th to honor the reasons we celebrate Christmas. I hope it is a trend to bring back the 12 Days of Christmas to our local community.  It is a much slower time to enjoy each other's company, ring in the new year, and thing about what is important to us.

Don’t forget that in the Asian culture, Chinese New Year is a major holiday and time to visit family and friends, have special meals, gift giving and of course fireworks.  It is their most important social and economic holiday.

However you choose to celebrate, perhaps it would be a good time to introduce new family traditions or pick up some old ones.  It is also a good time to start some new traditions to incorporate all year long.  Here are some suggestions for you:

  • Family date once a month. Many people already have a couple date night weekly, and if you don’t that is a great idea to do.  It is a good time as a family to have fun and reconnect from the busy pace of life.
  • Have a family game or puzzle night each week.
  • Take a class together as a family or read a book together – have a family book club, especially if your family is moving away.
  • Spend time each month organizing a family photo album.
  • Write a family history together.
  • Launch rockets or some other event.
  • Take vacations or go camping each year.
  • A family music/singing night.
  • Create a family recipe file.
  • Create a secret family handshake.
  • Brunch on regular basis.
  • Family service projects.
  • Rent a hotel room and have a family slumber party.
  • 12 Days of Christmas, after Christmas.

Here is an update for you on our family since many of our customers have become good friends and many of you keep asking.  Many of you have gotten to know our kids as they have worked in our store.  We are very blessed with 7 kids, lots of extended family, a wonderful community, and our dog.

  • Our oldest, Daniel is working as a manager in a kitchen at a restaurant.  He loves food.  He also plays in different bands around his community. He is very happy.IMG_0184
  • Angela is working on he masters in China and will be attending the United Nations conference next year.  She also performs in China and teaches English.  She is doing very well.
  • Nicole is going to school to get a degree in Natural medicine.
  • Trevor is serving a mission for our church in Taiwan and will be home in the spring of 2016.  He uses his music skills in Taiwan and has become quit fluent in Mandarin.
  • Chandler is serving a mission for our church in Brazil and will be home in 2017.  He still gets to use his music skills down there plus he is learning Portuguese very well.
  • Riley is still at home and just starting to learn how to help in the store.  He acts, plays soccer and the piano.
  • Rachel is also at home and loves to help in the store.  She acts and plays the piano.
  • Lizzy, our Shih Tzu keesp us busy with walks and keeps us entertained.  She is sometimes more  like a cat.

This year we welcomed Julie Davis and Mackenzie Davis to our staff.  They always have a smile for everyone that walks in the door.  We love having them at Indigo Mountain.

IMG_0219From all of us at Indigo Mountain, we wish you a very happy holiday season and the Merriest of Christmas'.   We appreciate your support of our family business.  Thank you for letting us serve you.  You may have noticed Julie and Mackenzie in the store.  We were very happy to welcome them to the Indigo Mountain family this year.

Mark, Kally and our 7 kids, Julie and Mackenzie

 

Julie Davis
Mackenzie Davis

The Power of Forgiveness

i-beg-your-pardon-927746_1920 Pixabay freeForgiveness actually benefits your heart health and your mental well-being.  Normon Cousins once stated, "Life is an adventure in forgiveness."

**Note - the recording cuts out midway, but stay tuned, most of the show is there and you still get a great message.  It was just a minor part that is missing. Keep reading below and I'll include the parts that are missing.

Check out this blog:  The Daily Motivator and his post about The Value of Forgiveness.  He has a beautiful message.  It is short, sweet, profound and a perfect complete message on forgiveness.

The holidays are the perfect time to give yourself and others the gift of forgiveness.  You'll have a better holiday.  Some celebrations can be very painful as the past pain sneaks up on you or you hold yourself back.

It isn't always easy to do for everyone, but we've got ideas to help.  Tune into the Get Real! with Mark and Kally show to catch our show:  The Power of Forgiveness.

Peace is not possible without forgiveness. Martin Luther King once said, “Forgiveness is not an occasional act; it is a permanent attitude.”  It is a daily act of living a life of peace.

The dictionary defines the word forgive as:  To grant pardon for or remission of an offense or debt.  To absolve.  To give up all claim on account of.  To cease to feel resentment against.  To cancel liability.

Forgiveness can be very difficult.  However, it is much easier to do than living with resentment.  Forgiveness allows you to learn the lessons of life and move forward.  It is important to forgive yourself and others even when they don't ask for it.

 

Forgiveness is very powerful and it CAN transform your life.  When you forgive, you are NOT saying that the offence is okay.  Your are saying that you are not going to continue to or even begin to feel resentment.Blame...Forgivenss Heals Monson

We can learn a lot about the Amish people and their experience of daily forgiveness.  In 2006, terrible tragedy struck and many might have felt they were justified in being angry.  But instead, they chose to forgive.  Read more about their story.

Cherie Carter-Scott said, "Anger makes you smaller, while forgiveness forces you to grow beyond what you were."

Dr. Darren Weissman so eloquently described situations in life as "gifts in strange wrapping paper." The strange wrapping is the experiences in life that you wouldn't always choose, and it is strange wrapping - but there is a gift - there is always a gift.  When you see the gift - the lesson - you can move past the event.  You can gain power from the experience rather than lose your power.

Start by looking at what your'll really upset about.

Next look at how you've handled your pain and your hurt.  What is the cost of holding onto these grudges and disappointments?  What is the cost in energy, intimacy, and self-esteem?

Then you have to decide to let go and forgive.  Don't wait for someone to ask your forgiveness.  Let go of your anger, blame and resentment.  This in turn frees you from what binds you to the person that caused the offence or is at the center of it.

As you let go and forgive you will find you are set free.

Forgiveness requires that you accept the past.  There is no power to change the past.  Holding a grudge or resentment means you want to change the past and that cannot happen.  All you can do is accept what is and what it was.

BUT YOU CAN CHANGE THE MEANING OF IT for you.  This is the key point.  Your interpretation of events can be changed - your beliefs.

Karol Truman has a great chapter on forgiveness in her book Healing Feelings from Your Heart, she teaches to write out forgiveness statements many many times until I releases in us.  Check her book out.love-sign-950912_1920 Pixabay free

Carol Tuttle said in her book, Remembering Wholeness, "…forgiveness of anyone who hurts us in our journey is required if we want to graduate into higher states of light and truth.  Our inability to forgive will keep us stuck, make us sick, and cause us to die eventually.  The opposite of forgiveness is blame and resentments:  two  of the lowest vibratory states we can reach.  Forgiveness is a process of releasing us to higher vibrations of gratitude, charity, of peace…"

Most if not all of us have experienced pain and hurt.  People wrong others - it happens.   Have you experienced anger.  I have and hurt so bad, I just wanted to scream and get off the planet hurt.    I have noticed at those times, my health suffers and I don't grow - I literally can feel a difference in vibrant energy.    I was holding onto so much that at one point I had become so angry and closed off.  I needed to feel unconditional love - I had no idea what that was.  As I was praying and meditating on unconditional love, I had a profound experience - I felt this vibration of unconditional love and it was beautiful!!!!  I knew I wanted more.  I let go of the past, the pain, and the resentments.  I thought I had tried to do that before - but not successfully.  The power of love really did help.

In the coming days and weeks I was forever changed - so much so that people close to me noticed.  In fact one of my aunts "lovingly" said, I didn't like you much before - you were not nice (I didn't realize I wasn't being nice) and now you're so different and I really enjoy being around you.

What is key here is - SHE DIDN'T know I might be entitled to some anger or entitled to the baggage I was carrying around.  SHE DIDN'T know I was wronged, attacked, and hurt.  But whatchurch-820339_1280 Pixabay free happened is - I let the experience take over my life - I didn't set out to do that, but because I held on, it affected me.  While I tried to be a good person, slowly over time, the low vibrations took over.

When I accepted unconditional love - this vibration took over because I chose to let go.  I chose to see others as showing love in the only way they knew how.  I chose to re-frame my perspective of the past and accept love and accept the gifts of those experiences.  I wouldn't trade them for anything - they made me who I am.

Studies show that forgiving others is actually very good for your health and it reduces stress in your body.   Even the Mayo Clinic said forgiveness brings with it plenty of health benefits, improved relationships, decreased anxiety and stress, lower blood pressure, lower risk of depression and a stronger immune system.    Holding grudges can cause physical pain.

One study showed that those who had the ability to forgive, tended to live longer.  http://inspiyr.com/health-benefits-of-forgiveness/

There is a growing trend in November to focus on gratitude.  A great idea.   Let us focus December on forgiveness and beginning a new.

Chronic hostility and anger and are among the most toxic forms of stress and not good emotional baggage to bring to a holiday celebration.

Buddha said, "Holding onto anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned."  Holding a grudge doesn't fix anything.

Forgiveness improves ALL your relationships.

Focus on the the here and now.  What experiences do you want to create.

For some more great tips on forgiveness, check out Wayne Dyer's website.  He has a great article written, "How to Forgive Someone Who Has Hurt You:  In 15 Steps". 

Kally and Mark for webListen in with us for some tips to help make forgiveness a part of your daily life.  If you are struggling, call or come in and talk to us.  The LifeLine Technique and the EVOX are both wonderful tools that help.  Read more about them on this page.

Mark and Kally

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The Very Hungry Caterpillar – Holiday Weight Gain

Orange Caterpillar with text by twobee at FDPIt seems that this is the time of year when there is food everywhere you go - special holiday food.  Do you remember the story of The Very Hungry Caterpillar?  He ate through a whole bunch of food.  Of course at the end - he was huge and then turned into a beautiful butterfly.  Now this works for caterpillars.  But we are not caterpillars.  However, if you find that you gain weight each holiday season - you can have YOUR OWN TRANSFORMATION, just like the caterpillar to a butterfly - but it is through understanding what you really want to eat - and making conscious choices and deal with those cravings.

Most people find themselves gaining 5 to 10 pounds over the holidays.  This is due in part to a belief that you will by abandoning all your healthy eating habits.  Many people start eating food not so good for them, and it is just the Very Hungry Caterpillar, it starts with 1 and before you know it - tons.  We have tips for you to help you, so take a listen to the show for your tips on avoiding the holiday bulge and catch some highlights below.

During the holidays your stress levels may increase and that can contribute to weight gain as well.   You don't have to avoid desserts  either, it is more about consciously eating and not eating everything in sight like the Very Hungry Caterpillar.

 

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You don't have to fall into this trap, it is possible to enjoy holiday goodies without putting on a single pound.  Portion control is the key.

Here are you quick tips for avoiding holiday weight gain.

  1. Never arrive at a gathering hungry.
    1. Eat healthy food before going, get your good food in.
    2. Eat chia seeds to help you feel full.
    3. Make sure you are hydrated, drinking your water needs.Roasted Chicken With Vegetables by Apolonia at FDP
    4. Take a healthy snack or herbal tea with you.
    5. Get your protein needs met.  When you have enough protein you crave less.
  2. Don't save up your calories for the party.  BIG MISTAKE.  If you arrive starving you will have no self control.  Eat your regular healthy meals.  Then go to the party.
  3. Pay attention to the people and the reason for the season or the gathering.  Don't make the holidays all about food.  Connect with people and make memories.
    1. Take pictures
    2. Write down stories by family members
  4. Take your time when eating.
    1. Use a small plate
    2. Fill up on healthier food first
    3. Stay hydrated at the gathering
    4. Talk to people and slow down while eating.
    5. Be picky - only eat what you really want.
    6. If you don't normally eat a food, don't eat it unless it is something you really want.IMG_3432
    7. Don't overeat just because you blew it.  Put the brakes on.
  5. If you drink alcohol, watch the number of drinks and set a limit.
  6. Make sure you really want a dessert.  Don't eat it just because it is there.
    1. Eat small portions of desserts.
    2. Eat what you love, don't eat it if it is not spectacular.
    3. Can you eat a bite and move on?
    4. Bring your own treats.
    5. If you really don't want the sweets at the office or that people bring - don't eat it.  If you do wan them, have a small amount and give away the rest.
    6. Learn to use the 3 bite rule for desserts.  Three bites:  1st amazing bite, satisfying middle bite, and the lingering 3rd bite.
  7. If you are doing the cooking, prepare healthier options.  Many people actually appreciate it.  Most traditional holiday food can be made healthier.
    1. Watch how much you are eating and 'tasting' while cooking.
    2. There are tons of recipes on the internet with a healthier twist.
    3. Whip your own cream and add stevia and vanilla.
    4. Use real food like real butter.
    5. You can make desserts with a lot less sugar.
    6. People love fruit and veggie platters.
    7. Don't keep leftovers unless you really want them and they wont be a problem.  Send them off with guests.
    8. Spread your holiday meal favorites over several days.  We love to eat left over turkey with a new side dish each day.  I don't feel the need to cram all my favorite food into 1 meal.
  8. Keep moving and exercising.  Studies show that when you start your day with exercise, you tend to eat less tempting food.  If your too busy to do a regular workout, then squeeze in 10 to 15 minutes of exercise.  It is better than nothing.
  9. Keep weighing yourself.  Get a new relationship with the scale.  It is a good feedback to tell you if you are gaining weight.IMG_3434
  10. Watch stress levels.
  11. Don't stress eat.
  12. Get your sleep.  When you don't get enough sleep it through off your hormones and you eat more.
  13. Learn to say no.
    1. What do you want to say yes to?
    2. What do you want to say no to?
  14. Get a game plan.  Decide what you want to do and what you really want to eat.  If you want that pumpkin pie, have it.  But then choose not to have a whole piece of every other pie.  Or even better - don't eat the whole pie.
  15. Deal with cravings ahead of time.  Here are some great tools.
    1. Journal
    2. Tapping, EFT
    3. The LifeLine Technique
    4. EVOX, Perception Reframing
    5. Meditation
    6. Focus on what you really want
    7. Visualization
    8. Stay calm and breathe
    9. Before going anywhere, work on your will power and make a commitment to yourself.

Join us every Wednesday at 9:00 AZ time zone on the Get Real! with Mark and Kally on Your True Colours Image Radio Network.

Kally and Mark for webDo you have any tips to share to help avoid gaining weight during the holidays?  Do you have amazing and delicious healthy food recipes that you make for the holidays?  Please share.

We so appreciate you, our readers and our customers.  Thank you for putting up with us and supporting us.  I am also so very grateful to our family for the sacrifices they have made so that we can do what we love, helping others and running our own business.   Our children are our reason for most things we do in life.

Thank you for tuning and have a wonderful Thanksgiving.

Mark and Kally

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Meaningful and Easy Gift Giving

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Our son Trevor getting a picture of a tiger. He loves tigers. A tiger picture was not on his wish list - but you can see he loved this gift.

The challenge……Give the best gift ever, again for your loved ones and friends.

Gift Giving, do you ever feel that challenge?  I know I used to.  And then I started to get heart-felt gifts from my mother-in-law, and they meant a lot. She gave my daughter some cheap costume jewelry that belonged to her mother.  When I turned 40 years old, she gave me 40, $1 bills.  She bought her favorite game when she was a child and gave it to my son.   That really got me thinking about what the perfect gift is.  She found a card from Mark’s grandmother (who passed away when he was 22 years old) and framed it for him; it even had a long note handwritten to him.

Give fewer gift items.  I know most kids want electronic toys right now.  Give them a gift that is not electronic.  Studies have shown that it is not so healthy for them when they spend more than 2 or 3 hours a day using electronics. Moderation is definitely needed.  Plan ahead and starting thinking about the person you want to give a gift to.  It is a little harder under pressure to find that perfect gift.

Here is what the perfect gift is not:

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She loves crazy fashion. No she didn't have these on her list either - but absolutely loved them.
  • It is not cheap toys that break the next day.
  • It is not always an electronic game or electronic toy.
  • It isn't always something on their list, sometimes especially with kids they don't know what they want.  And they might be pleasantly surprised with one of your ideas.  Others only want, what they want.

Here are some meaningful gift ideas:

  • Gifts that share a part of you with another family member. One year I gave my daughter my jewelry box from when I was a girl.  You can include a new piece of jewelry or an heirloom.

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    This was not on her wish list, she had not even considered it. But the idea of doing an at home spa day really was exciting - I love that look on her face.
  • A book that was your favorite from your childhood.
  • A favorite toy from your childhood, and the memory that goes with it.
  • Something to stimulate a new interest or hobby.
  • A gift that leads to more learning and exploration is the gift that keeps giving.
  • A craft with a note to complete the project together.
  • Art supplies; a drawing easel, paper, markets, paints, etc.
  • A family gift with a coupon for game dates. Great for kids or friends.
  • Family favorite recipes in a book. You can include tools to prepare the item, or you can include a ready-made meal or dessert from one of the recipes.
  • Family photo album for your kids of all ages, or your parents. We went on a trip away from our kids for 2 weeks, so I made a small photo album for my 2 youngest kids. I took pictures of ourselves and the kids and included other pictures from the past few years.  I didn’t realize what a treasured gift that was.  Now even 10 years later, it is still a worn favorite treasure.  The best part…my youngest was only 2 years old, but she knows why she has it and she still values it.

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    He is a builder and a book on Lego ideas was a spectacular gift. It wasn't on his wish list and he loved it more than the things he wanted. Rather than a new set of legos, this book helped open a new world of possibilities.
  • A plant for the garden like a new rose bush.
  • A gift that encourages a sport like skates or bike accessories.
  • Give a gift of music. CD’s, iTunes gift card, a musical instrument, music lessons or new music to play.
  • Puppets are a timeless gift. We sell a variety of puppets. It was a toy that was played with by my children from toddlers to adult.  We told stories with the puppets, they acted out plays with the puppets, they talked to the puppets and they talked back, and they entertained others.  It is a very interactive gift.
  • Give a membership to a zoo or museum. That actually was a past favorite of my children.
  • Give a gift certificate to a toy store and a shopping trip with it that includes lunch. Quality time and a quality gift that they get to pick out.
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He loves music and a piano keyboard belt really nailed a perfect gift for him. Also, not on his list.

Need some more ideas?  Check these 26 gift ideas out.

If you can’t or don’t have time to shop for your loved ones, we can do the shopping for you.  No matter the time of the year or the occasion, if you give us a budget and information on the person you’re shopping for, we’ll take care of it for you.  We will even gift wrap and ship if needed.  We have many happy customers that take advantage of this FREE service year after year.  We even remember who and what you got in previous years so we don’t re-give the same gift.

Come to Indigo Mountain for all your gift-giving needs.  We sell online and at our location on Main St. in Safford, AZ.  You can’t go wrong with a gift from a toy store!

Do you have some favorite tips?  Please share with a comment below.

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The Color Code, Focus Spotlight – The BLUES

piechart-y0BI4KTqThe Color Code by Taylor Hartman goes beyond the normal personality profile, it tells you why you do what you do.  When you understand your motives, then you can understand yourself better and the people around you, improving your relationships.

The Color Code is an amazing system that tells you "why" you do what you do.  On today's show,  we'll go over the 'Blues'.  Their primary motivation is connection.

If you have missed some of our other shows on the Color Code - check them out:

The People Code, and overview of The Color Code system.

Find out more about the REDS here.  Kally is a primary Red and will tell us all about living with a strong personality.

Color Code Focus, Yellows.  Our daughter Angela is full on Yellow - no strong secondary color.  You can learn more about how Yellows think and what it is like to live with a beautiful Yellow.  She is living her dreams in a big way and absolutely having fun doing that.

Coming soon, a focus on the Whites.

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The 'Blues' driving core motive is intimacy and connections.  Their natural gifts are quality and service.  They are naturally focused on quality and creating strong relationships.  Blues think emotionally.

Tune in and learn about the Blues in your life - even if that Blue is you.  We have a special expert with us - Mark - he is a 'true Blue'.  While he was in the hotel business, his focus and specialty was quality and service.  All his hotels ranked in the top for quality and service soon after he got there.  He was a natural.

Blues need to be be appreciated and understood and are generally focused on quality and creating strong relationships.

It has been an interesting marriage, me the RED living with a BLUE - Mark.  But we have learned a lot along the way.  As a red I'm focused on getting the job done - direct and to the point, while Mark is focused on doing a great job.  At one point in our lives we remodeled a house.  He was concerned about the corners being perfect and everything matching up - while I knew it never would, after all it was construction.  Working together with our strengths we make a great team, I keep him focused and on task moving forward quickly and he keeps us focused on quality.  At the same time, we can be each others worst nightmare.  But due to The Color Code, we have learned to focus on our strengths, give each other what we really need, and work together.

As a RED, as long as he acknowledges I am right.... we are good.  And for him the BLUE as long as I let him now I understand and appreciate him, he is good.  I may not always be right, and he is entitled to another opinion - we've learned to listen to each other.

The Color Code is a fabulous tool that has helped save our marriage and helped us understand and nurture our children.  We've been able to motivate them with their strengths from their unique personalities.

Take the FREE TEST at this link.  And if you really want to learn more information about yourself, specific to you… then pay the small fee and get the full results.  You’ll get videos and tons of information about your personality and more importantly about your unique combination with your secondary color.

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If you would like to learn more, we can help.  We do private and group coaching sessions.Certified Trainer

Follow the link for your FREE personality assessment.

If you are a BLUE or  think you might have a BLUE in your life, this is the show for you.  We love the BLUE'S, but sometimes we don't always get their emotional responses.   Remember Blue's, sometimes you can set goals way to high and you tend to overthink or guilt yourself too much.

markDon't forget to check out the program on the BLUE'S.

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The Color Code, The Secret to Understanding All Your Relationships

Certified TrainerDr. Taylor Hartman, himself a yellow with a good Blue wife helping him, discovered an amazing key to understanding people in a system called The Color Code.   His book, The People Code is a great guide and has helped thousands.  It is a new way to see yourself, your relationships, and life.

Check out our radio program on the basics of The Color Code.

We are both Color Code Trainers.  We learned the value of The Color Code years ago.  It saved our marriage and helped to understand our children better.  Often when we work with someone they reply, "You've given me the secret code to understanding my spouse and children!"  Once you understand people through really understanding their core motivation, you will never see people in the same way.

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Dr. Hartman's Color Code Personality Assessment is the most accurate, comprehensive and usable test available.  The Color Code is unique in that it identifies WHY you do what you do.  This

allows you very useful insights into what makes you tick.  But not only that - it gives you tools to understand all your relationships.  Everything in life is about RELATIONSHIPS.  One color is neither good nor bad.   Relationships can be puzzling.  This is a great tool to help put the pieces together.

Socrates said that the major task of life is to come to "know thyself".   We do this by examining ourselves and learning our unique motivations, needs, wants, strengths, and yes even knowing our limitations.  When we understand ourselves first, we can better understand how to successfully communicate and relate to others.

iceberg motivation and behavior wordsMany systems out there look at behavior modification and that barely touches the surface.  Picture an iceberg.  Only about 10% of the iceberg is visible above the water.  This 10% represents the behavior.  While 90% below the surface and the real danger for sinking ships is below the surface and represents motive.  Your core motive is at the root.

Life is about personal responsibility and must take 100% responsibility for ourselves and all our relationships.  We need 100% effort.  We have free will coming from our core motive and personality to choose to create our lives and build character.

In order to live optimally, you need to meet your needs - your basic needs.  When you understand your core motive - you can get your needs met.  We can't survive without water or food - they are needs and they are essential.  Without them, we will eventually die.  We need to feed our personality - we can literally starve ourselves when our personality needs don't get met.

I'll spell out the ideal basic qualities of the different personalities, but when we don't understand ourselves we become reactive and may have learned to respond to life in a color that is not our innate personality and it creates bumps in our path and we may struggle with ourselves and our relationships.

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REDS are the Lifeblood of humanity.  They are the movers and shakers of society.  They move forward from point A to B and get things done.  They are natural leaders and have vision.    REDS NEED:  to look good, technically, to be right, to be respected, and approval from a select few.  Click here to listen to our show on the REDS.

BLUES are the do-gooders.  They are connecting and creating quality relationships and have a great sense of purpose.  Their natural gifts are quality and service.  BLUES NEED:  to be good morally, to be understood, to be appreciated, to be accepted.  Click here to listen to our show on the BLUES.

WHITES offer a model for gentle, human dignity.  They are the peacekeepers.  Their natural gifts are clarity and tolerance.  WHITES NEED:  to feel good inside, to be given space, to be respected and to be accepted.  **Radio show coming soon.

YELLOWS, happy is as happy does.  They generally know what they love and always find the time to do it.  They are the fun lovers and live life "in the moment".  Their natural gifts are enthusiasm and optimism.  YELLOWS NEED:  to look good socially, to be noticed, to be praised, and to receive approval from the masses.  Click here to listen to our show on the YELLOWS.

Remember - no color is better than the others.  We need a good balance - a rainbow.  And the colors are not gender specific.  It is actually divided 50/50.  In other words, 50% of the Red population are women and 50% are women.  There are however, statistically about 35% of the population that is blue, evenly mixed between men and women.

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You can take the free test, get private one on one consultations or join us for classes.  Sign up for our newsletter or send and email for more information on our Color Code Personality Coaching programs.

Many people have a strong single color like our daughter Angela, she is a yellow; while others have a secondary color that directly influences their primary motivation.  Kally is a strong red, with yellow and that impacts her life.  Mark is a blue for sure, but he is affected as well by his secondary color yellow and by his 3rd color red and his environment and how he was raised.

We can help you better understand yourself and your relationships.  Click here to catch the overview of The Color Code on our Get Real! with Mark and Kally show on Your True Colours Image Radio.testh

Take the FREE TEST at this link.  And if you really want to learn more information about yourself, specific to you... then pay the small fee and get the full results.  You'll get videos and tons of information about your personality and more importantly about your unique combination with your secondary color.

Kally and Mark for webHave a great day!

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The Color Code, A Look Inside a RED Personality

piechart-kSIvFfBxLets get to know the REDS.  When you understand personality science, you have a key to understanding all your relationships better.  On today's show, we'll dive deep into the mind of the "go-getters".  They can often seem intimidating, they seek challenges, and have the gift of vision.  But they can come across as demanding.  Reds are the "life-blood" of humanity.  Join us to learn how to understand them better.

Healthy REDS are the lifeblood of humanity.  They are the movers and shakers of society.  Their ability to get from point A to point B directly and get things done is one of their gifts and strengths.  Their natural talents are vision and leadership.

REDS are motivated by power, this isn't the controlling kind of power - power means getting things done.  Reds don't always have to be in charge, we will follow a good leader.  Often Reds feel like this, "Lead, follow, or get out of the way."

If you missed our show on The Color Code, a general overview, check it out here.  That will give you a good background.

Raising a Red child can be quite a challenge.  They might seem disrespectful at times.  If you have a child that is a red, and you are having a challenge with them, put them in charge of something.  I have found my Red children will stand up to me and challenge me especially when they don't understand something.  You don't want them to learn to be disrespectful, but YOU do need to respect their healthy questioning and desire to understand situations.

Reds absolutely NEED TO:  look good technically, be right, be respected and attain approval from a select few.  If you are a Red or you have a Red in your life, recognize these NEEDS, and find a way to meet them for yourself or those you care about.   When I'm in a discussion with someone - especially my husband, the magic key words are, "Your right, but I feel this way" or "I can see your point, but...".   Many people have issues with a Red's need to be right - remember this is a need.  In most cases, a healthy Red will not voice a strong opinion or speak out unless they absolutely believe they are right.  And in most cases - the Reds are right.  There are some cases where this is not always true.  And, this doesn't mean other people can't be right as well.

Reds would rather get the job done than play.

red talentsAs a good example I relate my experience with Mark in remodeling our house.  He wants to make sure the corners and lines are perfect and was taking forever.  Me on the other hand, the Red, I recognized the imperfection of the general construction and knew that job just needed to get done as quickly as possible.  So with a Red driving the project and a Blue wanting perfection - you have to find balance - and that balance can be very empowering to both.  When we were not making progress on the house, it was causing me stress - not making progress or moving forward.

If you are a Red, understand that you can be very focused with limited perspective of others.  I used to be that, like I had blinders on until I realized that the world wasn't made up of people just like me.

Reds might find that they competitive - it is a good way to motivate them.

If you want to relate well to a red, DO present information to them in a logical way with facts and figures.  Be direct, brief, and specific - think bullet points.  As a red mother, when my kids come to tell me about their day, they can go on and on with many details.  It is hard for me to take in that mass of information and I can't get it.  So I have learned to say to my kids - "stop, what is the point?"  Once I know the point, I can listen with my heart to their details, but I need to get my brain to hear the bullet points first.

DON'T argue from an emotional perspective and don't be slow and indecisive.  And whatever you do, don't publicly humiliate them or make them look technically inadequate in front of others.

If you are a Red, learn to connect with others emotionally and socially.  Refrain from blaming others who fail to meet commitments.  And most importantly, relax, don't be over demanding.  Do be open to suggestions.

Don't forget to listen to the show, for a lot more details on understanding reds.color code trainerlogo

For more information on the BLUES, click here.

For more information on the YELLOWS, click here.

And coming soon, a focus on the WHITES.

We are Certified Color Code Trainers.  We live The Color Code, it has made a huge difference in our life and in our marriage.  And it certainly helped us raise our kids and help them get on the path to reach their full potential.  We can help you understand yourself better and the relationships you have with people.  Reds are very dynamic and this is just a brief overview of their personality.   Reds are vital to our society.

If you have not taken the test, click here or on the link.  You can take the free test and even better, using this link you get a discount.  Get the full results that take a look at your secondary color and specific information tailored to you.  You get videos and information to help you understand yourself better.

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Kally Oct Chinese Outfit tall 2Remember, Reds are not bossy, they just think they have better ideas.   😉

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