The Book, The Four Agreements, is a trans-formative book by Don Miguel Ruiz. The book reveals the source of self-limiting beliefs that rob us of joy and create needless suffering. It is based on ancient Toltec wisdom.
Join us for this episode as we discuss the Four Agreements.
When I first read this book, it made so much sense. It is a short and simple book to reads and is like a story. While small, it contains a very valuable message. Mastering anyone of The Four Agreements would improve your life drastically.
Don Miguel Ruiz was born in Mexico and is the youngest of 13 children. He originally attended Medical school and became a surgeon. He realized one day that what needed to be healed was not only the physical brain, but the human mind as well. he realized that the ancient Toltec wisdom of family was all the tools needed to change the human mind. He returned to his mother to finish his training and became a Shaman.
The Four Agreements was published in 1997 and was a New York Times bestseller for more than 7 years.
The Four Agreements are:
1. Be Impeccable with your Word. Speak with integrity and say only what you mean. Don't speak badly about yourself or gossip about others.
I have always believe the 2 most powerful words we have are "I am....". What do you say to yourself following the 'I am'? We often follow that with something that puts ourselves down. Instead start your day creating a powerful intention for yourself using "I am.....". For example, I am happy, I am successful or I am peaceful.
I noticed years ago I used to say, 'I am so sick and tired of such and such behavior.' Well pretty soon - I did start to become in reality sick and tired. I quickly changed my language and become impeccable with my word and began to say what I meant.
2. Don't Take Anything Personally. Nothing others do is because of you. What they do and say is a projection of their own reality.
So simple and so powerful this concept. Don't be easily offended and realize that every person on the planet speaks their own language and filters through their experiences of life.
3. Don't Make Assumptions. Find the courage to ask questions and express what you really want. Communicate clearly to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama.
Become a true scientist and ask questions. Look at your world and your relationships and ask. Don't assume meaning behind words and action. What a word means to you, will mean something different to another person. Your knowledge is based on what your experiences have taught you they mean. A simple sigh can be an indication of I'm tired or I'm really frustrated. Ask and find out before you assume.
4. Always Do Your Best. Your best will change from moment to moment and it will be different in different circumstances. Just simply do your best.
My father taught me to work the same for a dime or for $20 an hour, that I should always do my best. Remember everyone on the planet is doing their best also. Look at the world without judgement. Avoid self-judgement, self-abuse and regret.
As you try to live these agreements you will most likely find resistance in the mind. Don't get frustrated as you go through a transformation. There are years of habits and history and family patterns. Be kind to yourself and work on becoming aware. December is a time we focus on giving gifts to others. Give yourself and your community a great gift this year by embracing these for traits.
We have tools at Indigo Mountain that can help. The LifeLine Technique and the EVOX are terrific at facilitating transformation.
Get the book if you don't already have it. If you do, read it again. Enjoy the program.